Shifting Into Partnership

When it REALLY looks like something is the other person's fault, how do you shift into partnership again (regardless of what s/he is doing)?

• whats reliable for me is to ask myself if am in 100% responsibility, either for my feelings or creating the situation or some variation. Breathing follows! If I am feeling stubborn and righteous however, it takes a bit longer ;) Vandana
• Ask myself, hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm I wonder how I am contributing to this situation? love, Rhonda
• When I find myself pointing my finger..  I use that as a way to uncover a hidden treasure for myself..  How am I doing the same thing?  I share my surprised ah ha's with that person with 100% responsibility..  and find a creative way to support one another's growth into what we most truly want. Kalia
• Breathe, move, love and step into 100% responsibility and release that which does not belong to me.  These simple moves keep me in integrity and it creates space for the other person to do the same if they so choose. AI
• Wow, this is the Olympic event in relationship shifting! The times I have shifted out of this, my first step is to 'fess up that I do see this as their fault and what I am feeling around that. If I am authentically expressing what is true for me, the drama drops out and I am simply allowing my energy around the event to move thru me. When I do that from a grounded loving place, the shift often happens spontaneously.  Otherwise, I then do something different and unexpected, the more fun, the more flow: I start talking in a comical voice of one of my personas; I go for a walk and appreciate all the beauty I can see; I ask for a hug with the person and stay there until I feel flow and my primary commitment to being close. Michael
• When I'm "below the line" I can sometimes forget the super easy "Breathe, Move, Love," but that really is the key to getting to shifting into partnership again.  And, once I begin breathing and moving, I sometimes look for something I can appreciate, even though I REALLY DON'T WANT TO in that moment.  Once I get in touch with even the simplest appreciation, I begin to see my partner as my ally.  Appreciation helps me connect to my commitment to seeing my partner as my ally. Kim
• Regardless of the apparent villain - allow yourself to be fully transparent with you and microscopically explore your experience with authenticity, wonder giving voice to all of what you are feeling.  Choose how you want to be - self connection is effortless leadership which will invite YOU to feel better and invite others to meet you there. Riun